Wednesday, August 19, 2009

The Marriage Question.

Dustin and I get the marriage question a lot from other people; "when are you getting married?" or "are you enegaged now?" No Dustin and I are not currently ( engaged or married. But there is absolutly no doubt in either of our minds that someday we will be. We've known since very early on in our relationship that there would never be anyone else for either of us. Some people questioned or critized us asking how we could possibly know at such a young age, and after knowing each other for such a short period of time. But there are no rules when it comes to love and anyone whoes ever been in love can vouch for that. There's no time lines or schedules to follow, when it happens it happens and there's no stopping it. Everyone has there own plans and desires.
There's no one else I'd rather spend the rest of my life with than him.
Would I like to be a "mrs." right now? Of course. But we both know that getting married or engaged is worth the wait We've talked about it many time, "what about a long engagment?" or when we plan on tying the knot, ultimatly we decided 1. Wait till we're done with school. 2. We both (or one of us) has a steady job 3. we can support ourselves together. In my mind and in his we are "engaged to be engaged". It's so hard being away from Dustin just as his girlfriend I think it would be harder to be away as his fiance. But despite the time, you still think about it and plan for the future. What girl hasn't planned for her wedding since she was like 5? My mom jokes around and says "There's an order to things...graduate college THEN marriage"
I am lucky and bless to be in a relationship where we know for certain we will be together forever and that hope for the future keeps us going when we're apart.

1 comment:

  1. Hey Gina it's Casey. I totally understand the engaged to be engaged part. My boyfriend proposed without a ring, but even before that we just considered ourselves engaged, because the only the that changes is a ring on your finger, we already have all those feelings, the only thing that would be different is a token to show the world that. We've been together almost 4 years now, so I get the marraige question daily. I think you guys are being smart about it, and congratulations on keeping the long distance thing going, you are proof that it is possible